1 Peter 3:1 says, Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;  This is basically a call for a wife to live in such a way that she will lead her husband to Christ if He is not a believer, assuming that she is.  If both are believers, and are both obedient to Christ, then they will have no problem in their relationship to each other.  It is not about a power struggle, but about living to bring honor to God.   Verse two states, While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.  This does not mean that the wife is to speak nicely out of fear of her husband, but that she is to speak guided by her respect for God.  Verse three declares, Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;  This tells us that a woman should not be concerned only with outward beauty or looks.  I don't believe it means that a woman should not do these things, but means that they should not be a priority.  Verse four adds, But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.  Like any believer in Christ, the wife is to be ruled by her inner being, that personal relationship with Him.  No wife or husband should be controlled by outward appearances, but by the inner relationship with Christ.  Verse five says, For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:  The women of the Old Testament adorned themselves in obedience to God if they believed in Him.  If God is truly in charge of a marriage, then there will be no arguments about who is in charge, because God will direct both husband and wife.  Verse six says, Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.  Peter says that as Sara obeyed Abraham, Godly women today should follow her example.  Verse seven declares, Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.  The husband is to honor his wife, and not to just act as a dictator over her.  As long as a husband is led by the Holy Spirit, he will always do what is best for his wife.  We too often make marriage to be between a man and a woman and leave God out of it.  In a true marriage, God will always be the One in charge.  Verse eight says, Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:  As followers of Christ, we are to all have our minds centered on doing God's will.  When we do, we will naturally have compassion for one another, love one another, and be courteous to each other.  Verse nine states, Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.  We are not to meet evil with evil if we are to follow Christ's example, but we are to bless, or pray for, those who treat us badly.  We are not to speak badly about others, even if they speak badly about us.  Verse ten declares, For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile:  If we love the life that God gives us through our faith in Christ, we will control our tongue, or what we say about others, no matter what format we use to say it.  Verse eleven proclaims, Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it.  I believe this tells us that morality does indeed count.  God expects His people to live bringing honor to Him in all that they do.