1 Timothy 5:11

1 Timothy 5:11 says, But the younger widows refuse: for when they have begun to wax wanton against Christ, they will marry;  Paul said to not help the younger widows because when they began to be in need they would marry.  We again have to remember that women in that day were dependent on a man to provide for them since they had very few rights and even few jobs available to them.  I am not sure that we should expect younger widows to marry just for security, and they have many more job opportunities today.  Still, they shouldn’t just rely on others to support them if they are unwilling to work to support themselves if they are physically able to do so.  

Verse twelve adds, Having damnation, because they have cast off their first faith.  Paul also said that young widows who cast off their faith would bring damnation to themselves.  I don’t believe that anyone who has truly accepted Jesus Christ as their personal Savior and Lord will ever lose their salvation, so to me this would mean widows who had never put their faith in God.  

Verse thirteen continues, And withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not.  Paul said that these young widows who remained unmarried would have nothing but idle time on their hands and would wander around doing nothing but engaging in idle gossip.  Most young widows today are generally busy providing for themself and don’t have a lot of time for idle gossip, but there are some who expect family or society to provide for them, even if they are capable of providing for themselves.  Often those who are this way seem to enjoy spreading gossip about others instead of trying to provide for themselves.  

Verse fourteen states, I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.  Paul said it would be his desire that young widows get married again, have children, and guide her household so that no one would have any occasion to speak reproachfully about her.  He did not say that God commanded this, and not all young widows today who do not remarry live lives that bring them reproach.  I believe that if a young widow who is a Christian remarries, it should be because God had sent the right man to her.  

Verse fifteen adds. For some are already turned aside after Satan.  Paul said some young widows had already turned away from God and started following Satan.  I don’t believe that a Christian widow could ever lose her salvation, but she might engage in activities that she was tempted by Satan to do, and to me, that would even mean marrying for the wrong reason.

Verse sixteen adds If any man or woman that believeth have widows, let them relieve them, and let not the church be charged; that it may relieve them that are widows indeed.  Paul said if a family had widows that they should provide for them and not look to the rest of the church to do so.  We often look to the government or the church as a whole to meet the needs of our family that we ourselves should be meeting.

1 Timothy 5:8

1Timothy 5:8 says, But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. Paul then began to deal with how a Christian man was to deal with his own widowed mother.  If he did not provide for her needs, he was no better than an infidel.   I say man because in the society of that day women had very few rights, but today it would apply to daughters as well as sons I believe.  

Verse nine adds, Let not a widow be taken into the number under threescore years old, having been the wife of one man.  Paul then sets some standards for what constituted a widow that people should care for.  She was to be over sixty years old and the wife of only one man. 

Verse ten continues, Well reported of for good works; if she have brought up children, if she have lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints' feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have diligently followed every good work.  I believe this means that she had lived a good, moral life under the leadership of the Holy Spirit. 

1 Timothy 5:1

1 Timothy 5:1 says, Rebuke not an elder, but intreat him as a father; and the younger men as brethren; Paul told Timothy to not rebuke an elder but to treat him as a father and that he was also to treat the younger men as brothers.  Though Timothy was to be their pastor, he was not to view himself as superior to anyone, and neither should pastors today.  Timothy was not morally superior to anyone else, and nor is any Christian, even pastors, superior to any other Christian today. 

Verse two adds, The elder women as mothers; the younger as sisters, with all purity.  Paul told Timothy to treat all older women as a man should treat his mother and for him to look on all younger women as sisters.  This is still good advice for not only preachers but for all Christian men today.  We should never look on any woman without respect for them and should treat them with purity of thought, no matter what their status in the world may be.  

Verse three continues, Honour widows that are widows indeed.  There is more than one way to interpret what it means to be a widow indeed.  Some would say this means all widows, and it may.  Others would say this means widows with no family to help them, and understanding the norms of society in Paul’s day, I would say this might be more accurate.  Those widows who had family should have been honored by their family, though this doesn’t mean that Timothy should not honor them.  We should be more concerned with widows with no one to help them than we are with those who have family to help them, I believe.  Still, we as followers of Christ should treat all widows with respect because of who we are as Christians and not because of their situation as widows.   

Verse four states, But if any widow have children or nephews, let them learn first to shew piety at home, and to requite their parents: for that is good and acceptable before God.  Paul continued to explain what he meant by there being different types of widows, and I have just given my interpretation of this in the last verse, and Paul says much the same thing here.   If a widow has a family, they should be the ones to honor her by meeting her needs.  Often today, children do not even treat their mothers this way but instead leave them to provide for themselves both financially and emotionally because it would cost them time or money to do so.  

Verse five adds, Now she that is a widow indeed, and desolate, trusteth in God, and continueth in supplications and prayers night and day.  Paul does then differentiate between widows who believe in God and those who don’t.   Still, I believe that we should look at all widows with love and compassion whether we are able help them financially or not. 

Verse six continues, But she that liveth in pleasure is dead while she liveth.  If a widow has the resources and desire to live only for pleasure, we are not to help them financially or emotionally.  They are to be treated as someone who is spiritually dead, but we are still to pray that they will accept God’s gift of salvation.   We are also not called on to judge them as unworthy of God’s forgiveness.   

Verse seven concludes, And these things give in charge, that they may be blameless.   I believe that this means that Timothy was to call them to repentance so that they might be made blameless in God’s sight by accepting his gift of salvation, since there is no other way to be made blameless.

1 Timoty 4:12

1 Timothy 4:12 says, Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.  Paul told Timothy that he was not to let people despise, or look down on him, because he was young.  Timothy was called by God to preach, so his age shouldn't have mattered, and it shouldn’t matter today if a preacher is young.  Paul also said that Timothy was to be an example to others of what a Christian should be in everything he did. We likewise need to be an example of what it means to be a follower of Christ in everything we do, and this applies to all Christians, and not just preachers, deacons, and teachers.   

Verse thirteen adds, Till I come, give attendance to reading, to exhortation, to doctrine.  Paul told Timothy that until he came there that he was to read the word of God with attendance and understanding, and that he was to proclaim, or exhort, God’s word and that he was to follow His doctrines.  Timothy didn’t have the whole Bible, but he did have the Old Testament, and Paul told him to proclaim the truth of it to the people he was preaching to.  We do have the whole Bible, which includes this letter to Timothy, and we should recognize it as God’s word to us and study it diligently and proclaim it to the world, as individual believers, but especially as preachers and teachers in the church. 

Verse fourteen continues, Neglect not the gift that is in thee, which was given thee by prophecy, with the laying on of the hands of the presbytery.  Paul told Timothy to not neglect his gift, which came from God but was attested to by the laying on of hands by other preachers.  We still ordain preachers today by other preachers laying hands on them, but this is just an outward sign that we that we believe that they are called by God to preach, and if they aren’t, it is just a useless ritual.  On the other hand, even if they do not have fellow preachers ordain them, as long as they are called by God that is all that really matters.

Verse fifteen states, Meditate upon these things; give thyself wholly to them; that thy profiting may appear to all.  Paul told Timoty to meditate on these things, or to make them the main thing to guide his life by. He was to give himself completely to following God’s word so that he might be an example to all people around him.  This should be the goal of every Christian today.  If we at times fall short, then we should repent and ask God’s forgiveness.  

 Verse sixteen adds, Take heed unto thyself, and unto the doctrine; continue in them: for in doing this thou shalt both save thyself, and them that hear thee.  Paul said Timoty was to do this so that he could save himself and others.  I don’t believe that Paul meant that by simply obeying God’s law that that Timothy could save himself or anyone else, but that since he had put his faith in Jesus Christ to be saved that he was to do these things to be a positive example to those around him, and if they accepted Jesus Christ as their Savior and Lord because of this, that they would be saved.  This should be our goal today, and we must understand that we cannot save anyone, even ourselves. but people can only be saved by putting their faith in Jesus Christ.